What is a value?
Demartini describes values as something as specific to you as your fingerprint, your retinal pattern or your voiceprint. It could be spending time with your family, being in nature, walking, dancing, playing a specific sport, religion, honesty, beautiful clothes, etc. Values are the very essence of you. It’s what you are drawn to naturally, what you seek out and love to do.
I value time with God, my family, reading, researching and learning about topics I am attracted to, sharing or teaching what I know, creating, writing, helping others, empowering people to Be More, walking, etc. I can do most of these things relentlessly and no one has to motivate me to do it. These things are some of my highest values.
What are some of your highest values?
We might say something is one of our highest values, but then it is not really evident in our lives. Demartini therefore outlines and shares 13 questions that can help reveal our highest values:
- How do fill your space?
- How do you spend your time?
- How do you spend your energy?
- How do you spend your money?
- Where are you most organized?
- Where are you most reliable?
- What dominates your thoughts?
- What do you visualize most?
- What do you most often talk to yourself about?
- What do you most often talk to others about?
- What inspires you?
- What goals stand out in your life and have stood the test of time?
- What topics do you love to study, read about or research?
In his book, the Values Factor, Demartini explains how to align every aspect of your life with your true values (identified through the 13 questions).
What is the power of values?
According to Demartini our values are the key to helping us define and meet our goals. Work becomes meaningful and fulfilling if it is aligned with our highest values. Relationships can be better if there is mutual respect and appreciation for other people’s highest values. Values help you to focus on what is most important. It determines your attention, retention and intention. Demartini says, “When you live according to your highest values, then you liberate your most authentic you, your most empowered you, your most inspired you, and the most creative you.” It helps you to become the REAL You.
How can we use the power of values to help our children?
It is possible to link a child’s highest values to any mentally challenging task. I find I have to do it all the time when children struggle to find inner meaning in doing challenging academic tasks or learning tasks. I talk to them about what they love doing and what they are good with and then I find a creative way to link it with ‘what they dread’ or find boring or hard to do. Demartini talks about “finding the hidden genius in your children.” Children will pursue whatever they value the most and that is where their hidden genius will manifest!